This month I have been focusing on the role of the NURTURER.
As women, as mothers we are multi-dimensional beings and one of the roles that we play, this is a key role for us, it's the role of the NURTURER.
And the role of the nurturer has many different roles within it. One of the main roles that the role of the nurturer has within it is the role of the mother and mothering. And we mother our children in so many different ways.
One of the key ways that we mother our children is through food. And this is so obvious right? From the time that our children are in utero we are feeding them our mana, our prana, our energy. The essence of us is transferred to them. That's why we are so deeply and intimately connected to our children and they are attached to us.
Once we birth that child we are literally their life-support system and that bond continues. Many of us underestimate how much our children as teenagers still need to be attached to us. How much they physically need to be touched. How we should be hugging and touching them every single day. And how we need to continue to work on that bond. And continue to spend time with them.
One key way that we do this is we gather nightly at the table.
It is not unusual for us to have dinner at 8pm.
It's not that I love cooking.
I enjoy good food. It's not that I necessarily enjoy cooking good food.
But I know when I make that meal and we come together at the end of the day it does feel like a celebration.
And then what else happens at that table?
What happens at that table is you continue to be a key role model in your child's life. You continue to be that positive influence.
Years ago I read a book and its message really resonated with me. The name of the book is called Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld, a psychologist out of British Columbia, Canada.
He talks about how the reason in today's culture why so many kids, especially teenagers, are so attached to their peers is because they're not attached to their parents.
So we gather. And when we gather, so many things happen in that space, in that Sacred Bubble.
Much love and aloha,
Dagmara